hi my name is frank.

I seriously try to keep a friend out of the “romantic zone”. The zone where I see this girl in a light that makes her someone I’d love to be with.

Just the constant thoughts on that girl who caught my eye, or the heart palpitations that occurs whenever she would walk by, or even imagining a future with that someone. Infatuation could really cause problems because it’s founded on illusion.

What I’ve learned, is to break out of this pattern of infatuation, we must reject the notion that a relationship can ever completely fulfill us.

“Don’t nurse a crush!” We could really beat infatuation by simply not feeding attraction. I find that part so difficult.. You know, that feeling of wanting to get to know someone more, but in reality, you’re just putting them in that “romantic zone”.

“Each time we find ourselves attracted to someone to someone, we have a choice to either leave it at attraction or allow our imaginations to carry us away.” - Joshua Harris

What I want to be, is a friend, a brother in Christ to a girl. I want to treat her like a sister in Christ, and genuinely care for her. To help her through life. To be that kind of friend she could come to, not worrying about any tensions between us. I want to be the guy that her future spouse could come to, and say “Thank you for protecting, and caring for my wife.” Feelings often get in the way of this. But it’s all about the mentality, and the lifestyle. 

The commitment is hard.. and something I really want to do. I just want to drop pursing a girl, and really purse God instead. My infatuation often leads to putting that girl on a higher level than God. Causing me to lose my real focus..

It’s time to focus on God. Time for Him do His will for me. Time for me to pull down my own calendar, and let Him run my life. Time to continually seek His will. Time to make a change, and not make the same mistake.

*Inspired by a passage in “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” by Joshua Harris.